A. Success Within You
1. Responsible for whatever happen to you
We are responsible for whatever happen to us, to say, whatever happen to us is whatever we have control of. We will not be judged for what we don't have control of, therefore are not responsible for that. However, most people regret on what they don't have control of. For example, if we are created for some reason, not so good-looking, it is fair to say that it is something that cannot be changed, there's no point to regret. Or, something that happen to us, such as fate or 'takdir'. We are out of control of this. In addition, when people regret, they usually try to blame others although they are responsible for whatever they do.
2. Know your strengths and weaknesses
Research shows that the highest increment that a person can have in strength is 20%, to prove, that if a person is really weak in some particular aspects, the highest he or she can go is the average. However, it is not to say that there will have no chance at all to become outstanding. Thus, to overcome our weakness, one of the best solutions is to surround and mingle yourself with those who are strong in the areas of your weakness.
3. Have a strong will
How's training can really be effective to a person. According to some research done, for person more than 65 years, training is worthless, 24-64 years, 12% effective and 20% partially effective. But for 15-25 years, 20% effective and 20% partially effective. Thus, it is best to say that, at the young age, give training as much as possible, and as the skills gathered, it can be easily applied in the older age. And, it is also important to know that what is important is believing, not the knowledge. Believe that you can change.
4. Be proactive
Stop using reactive word is the first advice. Be proactive! Remember, you don't fail until you quit. A millionaire from Texas, was asked on how he became a millionaire. He said, "There are two things that I use in order to become a millionaire, do you want to know?". The questioner replied, "Of course, yes". He then said, "The first thing I did in order to become a millionaire is I decided really to become a millionaire," Then he continued, "The second thing I did to become a millionaire is I try to become a millionaire". So, the fundamental here is, first, decide to, and second, try to.
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-Adapted from talk from Dr. Tareq Suwaidan at Ryerson University on Formulas of Success